My niece came over for dinner last week. She’s single and on Tinder looking for a man. To drag her away from some twit she was texting, I announced it was time to eat. My niece told the guy. Next second she was laughing herself silly.
‘What?’ I asked.
‘He asked if I wanted to lick his dick as a starter.’
I didn’t smile. Dickylick’s approach was far too crude for my taste. I mean, how can something of depth come from that sort of start?
I said as much to a friend of mine called Jonas. He was looking for a boyfriend on a site called Grinder. Jonas met and grinded with a guy he met online, announced he was in love, then had a spitty-fit when he discovered his lover was grinding it large with every Tom, Dick and Harry from London to Luton.
I am a Tantric woman. We pride ourselves on our uninhibited approach to lovemaking but take time to let relationships blossom since we seek mind/soul connection before joining genitals.
I’m not interested in what some women read about – ie. whether Katie Price wants more kids, what Maria Carey looks like without airbrushed boobs, which celebrities were seen flashing their bums or the Kardashians ridiculously overpriced makeovers.
I want to be inspired. I want to be uplifted with joyous, meaningful news. I want to be with men who open car doors and make you feel adored; not unzip their pants in the same breath they say hello.
Am I part of a dying breed?
Stella Ralfini is an empowerment teacher, beauty guru and award winning author.